😔Do You Have Comparison-itis?


Comparison-Itis:
The Sneaky Challenge of Owning a Reactive Dog

If you have a reactive dog, you’ve probably felt it—the heavy weight of comparison-itis. You scroll through social media or watch other dogs calmly strolling by, and suddenly you wonder, “Why can’t my dog be like that?”

It’s totally normal to feel this way. But here’s the thing: every journey is unique. Reactivity isn’t a reflection of your skills as a pet guardian or trainer—it’s a sign that your dog is struggling with something deeper.

Comparison-itis tricks us into thinking we’re failing or that our dog is “broken.” But the truth? Your dog is doing the best they can with what they’ve got right now, and so are you!

Instead of measuring your progress against others, try this:

  • Celebrate small wins (that one extra calm step, a pause instead of a lunge).
  • Work on skills and play fun, strategic games at home to help your dog's reactivity.
  • Focus on understanding why your dog reacts, not just how they react.
  • Remember that patience and kindness—both for your dog and yourself—are the real game changers.

Your journey isn’t a race or a competition. It’s about connection, growth, and learning together. So take a deep breath, give yourself some grace, and keep moving forward—one step at a time.

You and your reactive dog have got this, and you have a whole team here ready to help! 💪❤️🐾


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